Being self-confident seems to come naturally for some individuals, especially those who are born into great wealth, are gifted in music, art, or athletics or those who possess astonishing beauty. But is this really true? You may feel that it takes going to extremes to be able to exude the kind of confidence that will make you a charismatic, popular person, but the simple truth is that there are ways to develop your self-esteem without resorting to plastic surgery, buying a Maserati or losing weight. Some small ways to develop big self-confidence include:
1. Learn the Art of Power Posing
A power pose, simply put, is a way to confidently present ourselves to the world. A study confirmed that when people position their body in a power pose for 2 minutes or longer, their testosterone levels rise. This hormone can make you feel more powerful and in charge of the situation. The power pose position also caused cortisol levels in the body to decrease — known as the stress hormone, cortisol decreases your tolerance for stress and risk.
Practice power posing before attending a big meeting or any other even in which you’d want to be seen at your best. Power poses include standing with your hands on your hips, putting your hands behind your head while sitting down and placing your hands on a desk (spread apart) while standing up. These wide poses exude dominance over the environment and may even instill subconscious feelings of fear, shyness, and lack of self-esteem in those around you. If it does, they may assume closed body language, such as clasping their hands together, wrapping their arms across their chest, or even crossing their legs.
2. Embrace Meditation
Maintaining a calm demeanor and reducing stress are just two of the benefits of meditation. If you are nervous or jittery, you aren’t likely to act confident or feel empowered.
Fortunately, you can meditate almost anywhere without anyone realizing you’re doing it. Simply eliminate distracting thoughts from your mind, focus on your goal, and breathe. Meditation helps wipe away mental clutter and troubling thoughts, and helps people gain better perspectives.
You can meditate by simply focusing on a pleasant smell, melody, sight or a positive thought. Other people meditate by repeating a particular word or phrase either out loud or silently — known as a mantra. Such words can include “winner,” “promotion,” or “success.”
3. Combat Negative Self-Talk with Affirmations
Talking to yourself may seem a bit silly, but studies show that using positive affirmations can be an effective way to become more confident. Whenever you think to yourself, “I will never finish this special assignment on time” or “I don’t have enough intelligence or the right skills to get a promotion,” vanquish these negative statements from your mind. Replace this self-talk with positive affirmations that will encourage you to succeed. Say things to yourself like, “I will complete this project on time and successfully” or “I am a fantastic employee and I have everything it takes to do this new job, and if I don’t, I will learn it quickly!” Say these positive phrases out loud to yourself every time you are in front of a mirror, or say them silently in your head. Also say them to yourself as you head to a meeting, while you are at your desk and during every other opportunity that arises. The more you repeat these positive phrases to yourself, the more you will believe them and exhibit a stronger self-confidence.
Generally, increasing your self-confidence has more to do with how you think of yourself, rather than what other people might think or say about you. One of the most effective way to infuse your psyche with self-confidence is to hire a life coach who will help you develop skills like those above and many more. The coaching will help empower you to be the best you can be!